Sexuality and sex therapy reading list


Special thanks to Jassy Timberlake of Northampton Sex Therapy Associates for compiling this resource list.

General Clinical Sex Therapy:


 “A Clinician’s Guide to Systemic Sex Therapy, 2nd edition” by Gerald Weeks, Nancy Gambescia & Katherine Hertlein

 “Systemic Sex Therapy, 2nd edition” by Gerald Weeks, Katherine Hertlein & Nancy Gambescia

“Principles and Practices of Sex Therapy” by Sandra R. Leiblum


“Principles and Practice of Sex Therapy” by Yitzchak M. Binik PhD and Kathryn S. K. Hall PhD


“The Art of Sex Coaching:  Expanding Your Practice” by Patti Britton


“New Directions in Sex Therapy:  Innovations and Alternatives” by Peggy J. Kleinplatz


“Quickies: The Handbook of Brief Sex Therapy” by Shelley K. Green


“Sex Made Simple: Clinical Strategies for Sexual Issues in Therapy” by Barry McCarthy


“The Illustrated Manual of Sex Therapy” by Helen Singer Kaplan


“Sex, Love and Mental Illness: A Couple’s Guide to Staying Connected” by Stephanie Buehler


“What Every Mental Health Professional Needs to Know About Sex” by Stephanie Buehler


“The Erotic Mind” by Jack Morin


“SexSmart: Transform Your Sex Life” by Aline P. Zoldbrod


“Sexual Dysfunction: A Guide for Assessment and Treatment” by John R. Wincze and Risa B. Weisberg


“Sexual Health in Recovery: A Professional Counselor’s Manual” By Douglas Braun-Harvey


“Sexual Behavior in the Human Male” by Alfred C. Kinsey


“Sexual Behavior in the Human Female” by Alfred C. Kinsey


“Behavioral Treatment of Sexual Problems:  Brief Therapy” by Jack S. Annon


“The Sex Researchers” by Edward M. Brecher and Williams H. Masters


“Sexual Variance in Society and History” by Vern L. Bullough


“The Guide to Getting It On” by Paul Joannides


"Don't Put That in There! And 69 Other Sex Myths Debunked" by Aaron Carroll and Rachel Vreeman



Men and Sex


“The New Male Sexuality” by Bernie Zilbergeld


“Coping with Erectile Dysfunction” by Metz and McCarthy


“Coping with Premature Ejaculation” by Metz and McCarthy


“Men’s Sexual Health: Fitness for Satisfying Sex” by Barry W. McCarthy and Michael E. Metz



Women and Sex:


“Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire” by L. Diamond


“Sex for One: The Joy of Self-Loving” by Betty Dodson


“The Clitoral Truth: The Secret World at Your Fingertips” by R. Chalker


“The Elusive Orgasm: A Woman’s Guide to Why She Can’t and How She Can Orgasm” by V. Cass


“For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality” by Lonnie Barbach


“Sex Matters for Women: A Complete Guide to Taking Care of Your Sexual Self” by Sallie Foley, Sally Kope and Dennis P. Sugrue


“Women, Sex, Power, and Pleasure:  Getting the Life (and Sex) You Want” by Evelyn Resh


“Tantric Sex for Women: A Guide for Lesbian, Bi, Hetero and Solo Lovers ” by Christa Schulte


“She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide To Pleasuring a Woman” by Ian Kerner


“Woman: An Intimate Geography” by Natalie Angier


“Femalia” by Joani Blank


“When the Earth Moves: Women and Orgasm” by Mikaya Heart


“The Science of Orgasm” by Barry R. Komisaruk, Carlos Beyer-Flores and Beverly Whipple


Out of Control Sexual Behavior:


“Treating Out Of Control Sexual Behavior: Rethinking Sex Addiction” by Douglas Braun-Harvey and Michael A. Vigorito


“The Myth of Sex Addiction” by David J. Ley


“Ethical Porn for Dicks:  A Man’s Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure” by David Ley





“Reclaiming Your Sexual Self:  How You Can Bring Desire Back Into Your Life” by Kathryn Hall


“Come As You Are:  The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life” by Emily Nagoski


“Passionate Marriage:  Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships” by David Schnarch


“Intimacy and Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship” by David Schnarch


“Rekindling Desire” by Barry and Emily McCarthy


“The Return of Desire: A Guide to Rediscovering Your Sexual Passion” by Gina Ogden


“Passionista: The Empowered Woman’s Guide to Pleasuring a Man” by Ian Kerner


“Mating In Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence” by Esther Perel


“Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships” by Diane Vaughan


Sex and Trauma:


“The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind and Body In the Healing of Trauma” by Bessel Van der Kolk


“The Sexual Healing Journey:  A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse” by Wendy Maltz


“The Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Childhood Sexual Abuse” by  Staci Haines


“Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse” by Mike Lew






“Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Restoring Your Sanity After Infidelity” by Shirley P. Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli


"After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful" by Janis Spring





“The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities” by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt


“More Than Two:  A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory” by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert


“Opening Up” by Tristan Taormino





Consensual Non-Monogamy:


"Love in Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships" by Kathy Labriola






“Sexual Outsiders: Understanding BDSM Sexualities and Communities” by David M. Ortmann and Richard Sprott


“Understanding Bestiality and Zoophilia” by Hani MIletski


“Perv: The Sexual Deviant In All of Us” by Jesse Bering



Sex and Aging:


“Naked At Our Age:  Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex” by Joan Price



Sex and Fat:


“Big, Big Love: A Sex and Relationship Guide for People of Size (and Those Who Love them)” by Hanne Blank


“Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight” by Linda Bacon


“The Round World: Life at the Intersection of Love, Sex and Fat” by Dan Oliverio


“Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life” by Elle Chase


Cancer and Sex:


“Woman Cancer Sex” by Anne Katz


“Man Cancer Sex” by Anne Katz


“Prostate Cancer and the Man You Love: Supporting and Caring for your Partner” by Anne Katz


“Reclaiming Sex and Intimacy After Prostate Cancer” by Jeffrey Albaugh


“What Every Gay Man Needs to Know About Prostate Cancer:  Diagnosis Treatment and Recovery” Edited by Gerald Perlman.


Women and Sexual Pain:


“The V Book:  A Doctor’s Guide to Complete Vulvovaginal Health” by Elizabeth G. Stewart and Paula Spencer


“Healing Painful Sex: A Woman’s Guide to Confronting, Diagnosing, and Treating Sexual Pain” by Deborah Coady and Nancy Fish


“When Sex Hurts: A Woman’s Guide to Banishing Sexual Pain” by Andrew Goldstein and Caroline Pukall


“Pelvic Pain Explained” by Stephanie A. Prendergast and Elizabeth H. Rummer


"A Woman's Guide to Overcoming Sexual Fear & Pain" by Aurelie Jones Goodwin & Marc E. Agronin





“Men Loving Men: A Gay Sex Guide and Consciousness Book” by M. Walker


“The Joy of Gay Sex” by C. Silverstein and F. Picano


“The Psychology of Sexual Orientation, Behavior, and Identity:  A Handbook” by L. Diamant and R. McAnulty


“10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives” by Joe Kort


“10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Find Real Love” by Joe Kort


“Ultimate Gay Sex” by M. Ford


“The Ins and Outs of Gay Sex” by S. Goldstone


“Gay and Gray: The Older Homosexxual Man, Second Edition by J. Dececco


“Transgender Emergence: Therapeutic Guidelines for Working with Gender-Variant People and Their Families” by Arlene Istar Lev


“The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus:  How to Go Down on a Woman and Give Her Exquisite Pleasure” by Violet Blue


“The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us” by Felice Newman


“Understanding Asexuality” by Anthony F. Bogaert


“The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality” by Julie Sondra Decker


“Girl Sex 101” by Allison Moon and KD Diamond


“Sexual Intimacy for Women:  A Guide for Same-Sex Couples” by Glenda Corwin


“The Gender Creative Child: Pathways For Nurturing and Supporting Children Who Live Outside Gender Boxes” by Diane Ehrensaft and Norman Spack


“The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals” by Stephanie Brill and Rachel Pepper


Sex and Disability:


“The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live With Disabilities Chronic Pain and Illness” by Mirian Kaufman, Cory Silverberg and Fran Odette


“Power Exchange Book:  Playing with Disabilities” by Angela Stassinopoulas


The Science of Orgasm (dense and full of scientific documentation)  is a great reference.