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Sexual Predators and Sexual Fetishes: Don't Confuse the Two

Submitted by Talli on Sat, 10/25/2014 - 19:42

Sexual predators and sexual fetishes: Don’t confuse the two

 

Ten Tips for Raising Sexually Healthy Orthodox Daughters

Submitted by Talli on Thu, 05/15/2014 - 11:10

For Times of Israel article click here

 

Orgasms : Only for the lucky few?

Submitted by Talli on Fri, 03/07/2014 - 12:07

Should'nt all women be able to reach orgasm?

 

Is monogamy outdated?

Submitted by Talli on Tue, 01/14/2014 - 20:06
 Here's a story: At a sex therapy conference a decade ago, male physicians and sex therapists debated the etiology and treatment of womens sexual desire "problems". The doctors attributed low desire in women to hormonal and medical factors while the sex therapists suggested, somewhat in jest, that the treatment for low sex drive in women is for them to "get a lover" or "change partners."  To this the women participants responded "Are you kidding? An affair? What married woman with a job and kids has time for an affair?  Fast forward ten years. Daniel Bergner, author of "What Do Women Want?" isnt joking around. Bergner says that  women's desire is an "underestimated and constrained force." He cites research demonstrating that women are  innately sexually aggressive and desire multiple partners. Research also points to biological factors involved in acting out sexually outside of marriage. So, it would appear the question for women "not feeling it" in their marriages should not be  "why don't you desire" but rather "what do you desire? and "with whom? Do you believe that women are not really wired for monogamy? Or, is a new social construct being created giving women yet another reason to feel inadequate for not craving polyamory? And for those who value monogamy, is being "monogamish" the solution?  How about this...monogamy may be challenging, but being committed to it doesn't contradict sexual satisfaction. That takes communication and investment.And of course asking your female partner not "why dont you ever want?" but rather,  the question: "What do YOU want?"

 

Sexual pain is not your fault.

Submitted by Talli on Sat, 01/12/2013 - 22:08

 

 

Addressing Sexual Abuse in Physical Therapy Practice

Submitted by Talli on Sun, 10/07/2012 - 12:30

As a women's health physiotherapist who went on to study counseling and receive psychotherapy training, I am currently involved in lecturing on counseling skills to physiotherapists. I teach PTs basic counseling skills such as empathy, active and reflective listening, open ended sexual history taking, and, dealing with sexual abuse disclosure in the clinical setting, amongst many other topics. I am often confronted with anxiety of PTs who believe, often justifiably so, that the training they received in physical therapy school inadequately provided the counseling skills necessary to effectively contain and address issues such as sexual abuse.