Talli's blog

Going from 'Mommy' to 'Wife'

Submitted by Talli on Mon, 10/12/2015 - 10:31

"How do I make the switch? After changing diapers, nursing and taking care of the little one's needs all day, when its time to go to bed, finally, I just want to sleep"


Be assertive (not aggressive), it's good for your relationship

Submitted by Talli on Sun, 10/11/2015 - 21:29

As poet Thomas Moore wrote "Intimacy begins with the self"


Why curiosity is good for your marriage

Submitted by Talli on Thu, 10/08/2015 - 20:41
In a therapy session, John, 40, says "Mary isn't interested in me. She doesn't ask me anything about my inner world." Mary responds with tears. "I don't know how to make John happy" The well known couples therapist, John Gottman talks about getting to know your partner’s love map! When we stay curious about our partners. we demonstrate that we are interested in knowing and understanding more about their feelings, thoughts, and experiences. However, if we are reactive to our partners, or feel responsible when they are sad, disconnected or mood, we become defensive, and this prevents the curious and caring response. For more on love maps, please read this article.    


Understanding Sexual Pain Disorders

Submitted by Talli on Wed, 10/07/2015 - 20:52

In this issue of Contemporary Sexuality, the newsletter of AASECT, the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists, I am inteviewed along with experts Professor Irv Binik, Dr. Deborah Coady, and Dr. Sharon Parish.


More ways to create intimacy

Submitted by Talli on Sun, 09/27/2015 - 15:32

Curiousity about our partner means wanting to know about their experiences, feelings, thoughts, what  people or events influenced and shaped their development and who they are.


Do feminists have better sex?

Submitted by Talli on Sat, 09/12/2015 - 21:27

While some studies indicate that egalitarian couples report less frequent sex than couples who carry on "traditional gender roles", this article explains why feminists have more fun. "Sex is an act between two equal, consenting partners"




What skills are needed for intimate relationships?

Submitted by Talli on Sun, 06/28/2015 - 10:52

This relationship self test, looks at how you rate yourself, as well as how your partner rates you, in some fundamental areas of relationships.


Ten tips for new brides

Submitted by Talli on Mon, 06/08/2015 - 19:48

For the original Times of Israel article click here


Don't be afraid to be vulnerable

Submitted by Talli on Tue, 05/26/2015 - 21:09

"Why do people often shut down in the face of intimacy? Because of an intense fear of vulnerability. Dr. Brene Brown, Professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, explains this phenomenon: “Vacillating between I am here and I love you…and I’m going to reveal my innermost to you…and I am scared to death that you’ll reject me.” Ironically, the vulnerability we try desperately to avoid may be the key to a successful relationship."