Talli's blog

Understanding Sexual Pain Disorders

Submitted by Talli on Wed, 10/07/2015 - 20:52

In this issue of Contemporary Sexuality, the newsletter of AASECT, the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists, I am inteviewed along with experts Professor Irv Binik, Dr. Deborah Coady, and Dr. Sharon Parish.


More ways to create intimacy

Submitted by Talli on Sun, 09/27/2015 - 15:32

Curiousity about our partner means wanting to know about their experiences, feelings, thoughts, what  people or events influenced and shaped their development and who they are.


Do feminists have better sex?

Submitted by Talli on Sat, 09/12/2015 - 21:27

While some studies indicate that egalitarian couples report less frequent sex than couples who carry on "traditional gender roles", this article explains why feminists have more fun. "Sex is an act between two equal, consenting partners"


Psychosexual Aspects of Vulvar Disease

Submitted by Talli on Sat, 09/12/2015 - 20:50

Abstract: Physically, the vulva is an anatomic location of convergence, which includes vascular, neural, hormonal, reproductive, dermatologic, and musculoskeletal systems. Psychosocially, the vulva represents privacy, femininity, sexuality, and intimacy. Because of this intertwined relationship, vulvar disease and dysfunction can significantly impact a woman’s physical health as well as her relationships. This article elucidates the impact of vulvar disease on the individual psyche, sexual functioning, and intimate relationships. Psychological concepts are explained, psychological interventions are reviewed, and integrative approaches addressing psychological factors in the clinic are introduced. 




Desire- Sex, Judaism and Feminism

Submitted by Talli on Wed, 07/01/2015 - 06:00

Created by Talli Rosenbaum and Elana Sztokman Facilitated by Elana Sztokman


What skills are needed for intimate relationships?

Submitted by Talli on Sun, 06/28/2015 - 10:52

This relationship self test, looks at how you rate yourself, as well as how your partner rates you, in some fundamental areas of relationships.


Ten tips for new brides

Submitted by Talli on Mon, 06/08/2015 - 19:48

For the original Times of Israel article click here


Don't be afraid to be vulnerable

Submitted by Talli on Tue, 05/26/2015 - 21:09

"Why do people often shut down in the face of intimacy? Because of an intense fear of vulnerability. Dr. Brene Brown, Professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, explains this phenomenon: “Vacillating between I am here and I love you…and I’m going to reveal my innermost to you…and I am scared to death that you’ll reject me.” Ironically, the vulnerability we try desperately to avoid may be the key to a successful relationship."

 "When you engage religious life with modernity, ultimately modernity wins." says NYTimes columnist Mark Oppenheimer. In talmudic times, people were encouraged to marry off their children at a very young age, such that they did not have to deal with the sexual urges that single people do. Today, people are marrying later. They are engaging in sexual relationships and it is time to have the converstion about it. So say Rabbi Dov Linzer and Batsheva Marcus, who are bravely tackling the reality of sex outside of marriage, in a recent podcast. Much of the discussion involves clarifying what, according to Jewish law, defines the act of sex, and the technicalities of Rabbinic vs Biblical law, such that when an unmarried couple do engage in sex, they can understand the legalities regarding specific sexual acts, use of the mikvah (ritual bath), what is prohibited by the written Torah, and what is prohibited by Rabbinic sources. If you are going to be sexually active, then according to Rabbi Linzer, it is better to transgress a Rabbinic prohibition than a Biblical one.   The best part of this podcast, in my humble opinion, is a fascinating presentation by NYTimes columnist Mark Oppenheimer about how different religions engage with modern sexual norms. Click here to listen to the podcast