Talli's blog

Intimate Judaism: The Wedding Night Episode

Submitted by Talli on Tue, 10/09/2018 - 17:30

Many couples await the wedding night with anticipation and excitement, as they are finally permitted to express their desire for one another and to consummate their relationship.  For some couples, however, the wedding night, and sometimes the weeks and months thereafter, can be a source of anxiety and distress, and represents an obligation they struggle to “perform successfully.”

 

Tightly Wound: A Review and Social Commentary

Submitted by Talli on Sun, 09/09/2018 - 15:53

Tightly Wound is a film by Shelby Hadden and Sebastian Bisbal that tells Shelby's story of dealing with vaginismus and her path to finding treatment.

 

Intimate Judaism: The premarital sex episode

Submitted by Talli on Tue, 08/28/2018 - 19:37

As human beings, we are wired for connection. When we connect emotionally with a member of the opposite sex, and experience attraction, and/or affection, the desire for intimate touch is a natural instinct. In society at large, this desire is understood to be moderated by social rules that include determining availability, and mutual consent and should include communication about boundaries and prevention of pregnancy when applicable. According to Jewish law, however, premarital sexual activity, even when it doesn't involve sexual intercourse, is strictly forbidden. This can result in an inner conflict.  We are committed to observe the laws but struggle, and sometimes fail,  with refraining from all touch which can feel awkward and un-natural. This tension between human longing and restrictions in behavior is at the core of what being an observant Jew is about. Yet, the paradigm of this power struggle, particularly when the desire side wins out, as it often does, may fail to address the important issues of boundaries, mutuality, consent and birth control, as well as relate to the “degrees” of  religious prohibition involved. What are the keys to discussing premarital sexual activity with Orthodox Jews in an honest and healthy manner? Join Talli Rosenbaum and Rabbi Scott Kahn for a fascinating and frank discussion of these important religious and educational issues.  Listen to the episode here.

 

Introducing Intimate Judaism

Submitted by Talli on Thu, 08/09/2018 - 10:14

Welcome to INTIMATE JUDAISM

 

Free Podcast -Jewish Intimacy: The Mind and Body Connection

Submitted by Talli on Thu, 06/07/2018 - 13:25
This interview with Chana Deutsch focuses on emotional and physical intimacy on the context of Orthodox Judaism. We explore the questions:In what ways is sexuality a part of the developing self?How do we address the cognitive dissonance involved in the expectation to refrain for all physical touch with the opposite gender until marriage, but have sexual intercourse on the wedding night?How does emotional intimacy affect physical intimacy, and vice versa?What lies at the core of sexual shame and embarrassment?How can Orthodox Judaism as a culture, engage with sexuality in a healthy way? The following are excerpts from Talli's presentation"At the foundation of a passionate marriage, is a feeling of full autonomy and consent for each partner.""When sex is presented as a goal to accomplish, it feels like a chore and not an opportunity for communicating love, caring, bonding and affection.""We need to reframe sexuality away from women feeling obligated to provide for their husbands needs. Both men and women are wired for connection and long for intimacy." Listen to the full interview here  

 

With all your heart interview series

Submitted by Talli on Thu, 04/12/2018 - 14:15

Are you a woman who wants to have a happier, more intimate relationship with your husband, but you struggle to achieve that?

 

The M word podcast: Orthodox Conundrum with Rabbi Scott Kahn

Submitted by Talli on Sun, 03/18/2018 - 21:24

THIS PODCAST CONTAINS EXPLICIT MATERIAL. LISTENER DISCRETION IS ADVISED.

 

The death of desire begins in childhood

Submitted by Talli on Thu, 03/08/2018 - 20:43

Above the drawing of four modestly attired girls in a supermarket is the caption “Modesty in the public sphere:  What immodest act is each girl in the picture engaged in?’

 

The M word, an addendum to raising sexually healthy Orthodox sons

Submitted by Talli on Wed, 01/24/2018 - 15:54

First published in Times of Israel

 

Sexual abuse with no abuser: guest blog

Submitted by Talli on Tue, 12/05/2017 - 16:04

This guest blog was written by Elisheva Liss, LMFT